Ideal Partner

[sageda]

In A Doll's House, we saw that the ideal wife is one who is submissive, seemingly helpless, smart but not too opinionated, and a nurturing mother. The ideal husband is one who provides for his family and that seems to be it.

These are very outdated qualities so I was wondering what is your ideal partner? Do any of the qualities overlap with that of 19th century Norway?

[alexkoo]

Women in Doll's House are not ideal to me at all. I think it would be very boring to live with someone who just do whatever you tell them to do. I want to live with someone who is attractive and someone who i want to be with. I do not want to be loved but i want to love someone because it is fun that way. I am going to live with someone who will be still pretty until 50.

[hannahs]

I want a guy that I can be myself around and know that he won't judge me no matter what I do. I think my ideal partner is someone that I can have fun with no matter what we are doing and just enjoy each other's company. I guess some qualities overlap with those of 19th century Norway because I would want my husband to be able to provide for the family even if I do work too.

[sujeonggg]

My ideal partner would be someone very responsible. And of course I don't want a guy like Torvald, who just dictates his wife. So I want my partner to be responsible for our relationship as well as his own work; I don't think it is a good relationship once either of our own business is disturbed by having that relationship. I think being responsible is one of the very important qualities for having any kind of relationship, no matter the time period.

[jessicashim2013]

I want someone who would respects me; respect my family, my job and any hobbies I like. Even though we might be different, if we respect each other, I don't think there would be any problems. An ideal partner would also be someone who can point out what I'm not doing well. I don't want my husband to also say "Good job!" "Perfect!" Partners are there to help one another so they can become a better person. I would happily take feedbacks and try to fix it. Of course he shouldn't be like Torvald, looking down on me. It would be nice if he can talk in a calm manner.

[sang]

My ideal partner would be yeah like Hannah said, someone who wouldn't judge me for who I am.. That really means a lot to me cause these days everybody is getting judged for the slightest actions. I also think that another characteristic in my partner would be dedication, because anyone who isn't dedicated won't be motivated, influential, and overall be a good person.

[cathysjun]

My ideal partner would be someone who gets along with me extremely well. Someone who respects me and loves me for who I am. I do agree that some of the qualities do overlap with the 19th century Norway; I would want my husband to provide for the family.

[delmanykkfs]

HAHA my ideal partner... i need to have one soon. My ideal partner will be someone who knows how to respect me and who deserves respect. I want to live with someone who has good moral and character. I do not know if i am going to meet my ideal partner, but i am pretty sure that Jesus will lead me to her.

[RegXD]

... my ideal partner .... um .... aaaa .... not really sure about it. dont know what type i think i would wish for. because .... i just think that i just wanted to be happy with ... "my future partner" and live together happily without any problems or issues. but i think i wish she is nice and have long hair.

[sarahlee2]

My ideal partner is someone that I am really comfortable around and someone that doesn't lie. I feel like lying is really destructive to any kind of relationship. I can't stand it when people tell me a lie that obviously isn't true and they don't even look guilty about it.

[seongrae]

My ideal partner is someone who keeps promises and listens to me. I am not saying that I will dictate everything what my ideal partner need to do. I am saying that I will have some expectation and some behavior I do not like so that I will not be disappointed sometimes. Therefore, my ideal partner is one who keeps promise and change for me.

[minchoi0923]

My ideal partner would be someone who is responsible for his own words. I really don't like those people who never keep their own promises; it is very annoying how some people are just irresponsible of what they have done. Also, usually, responsible men are also good husbands because they take all the responsibilities as a husband and take care of their children wisely. Therefore, my ideal partner is someone whom I can trust all the time.

[ginayang]

My ideal partner is a guy who is loyal, honest, intelligent, patient, nice, and protective. And being protective overlaps with men in 19th century Norway. Men were the head of the family who had to be reponsible for the family. But as a 21st century person, I don't agree with the concept of men being the breadwinners and women just staying home. If I get married, I want to continue working. I am not going to sit around at home, losing brain cells. Men can be a stay-at-home parent too. Women should not be the only ones who cook, clean, and take care of the children. Women deserve to be treated equally as men.

[jessicak016]

My ideal partner is someone, who loves me, no matter what I am, both the good and the bad side of my personality. I think that this quality overlaps that of 19th century Norway. The marriage would be less stressful in any society and in any time period if you are fully aware that your husband loves you no matter what you are.

[stormy44]

I want him to be faithful-both to God and me I guesss.. Piety was one of the ideals for women rather than men, but I think it's a really important virtue for guys as well. I don't want a controlling man like Torvald from the play. Guys usually think when they have more power over a relationship, it means women can depend or rely on them-which is a total misunderstanding. I want a guy who I can really trust, but also a guy who can trust me toooo.