Boys vs Girls

[minchoi0923]

This is totally NOT relevant to Hamlet but I'm still going to upload it because I want to know what you guys think.

here's the link!:
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The video is from Korean TV channel (EBS). There's no subtitle but I think you guys can sort of get the idea even without understanding what they're saying. So the video is about how girls and boys that are around age 1 or 2 react to their mom crying. When they see their mom crying, the girls cry with them as if they were sad as well while the boys just don't care and even seem to be bothered by it.
The psychologists said that they did this experiment various times, and they got the same results each time they did it.

After doing the experiments, they learned that girls are better with sharing and understanding emotions than guys do.They are simply born with it. This is why when girls are going through difficulties, they look for friends who can "cry with" them while guys look for friends who can give them advice. As a result, guys and girls can never understand each other.

I think this whole idea that guys and girls can never understand each other is wrong. There are always exceptions. I saw many girls and boys who don't really fit into those categories. But surprisingly, I found out that many people actually agree with that idea.

So, what do you thinK? Do you really think that girls and boys have different ways of understanding each other?

[cesar]

Depends what you believe in, it's nature vs nurture and there really is no way to know. Sure there are always exceptions, but these are babies. They still haven't been molded by society yet so nurture does not apply, only nature. If the subjects were a few years older then there might be some room for debate, but at that age it might just be true that girls are more empathetic with guys. As we grow a lot of things happens that inevitably make us change and then I can agree that the video is wrong and each person is an individual and not a category.

[RegXD]

Well first of all the video was funny and it is saying that baby girl is more emotional than a baby boy would react to situations. But i think that it has to depend on individual because from that video i think they had the demonstrators ready to act or perform. but still it could happen orr say that every child or baby are and will behave the same way as the video did. so i think there isnt any differences that could separate or categorizes boys and girls.

[franicaza95]

i mean guys and girls have always been different, emotionally. its cute to see how even when the boys are babies they dont give a crap about their moms feeling whereas the girls feel the emotions. also i think that even if a lot of things like this differ guys from girls i think that yes, there are always exceptions to thinking why they have different understandings, but also times when they can agree on something.

[yerin0727]

I also think that there are many exceptions to this argument. It may be general that most girls have more emotions and are to cry along with their mothers when they see their mothers cry. However, there may be exceptions to where a boy may be crying along with his mom whereas a girl may not seem to care for her mother at all. Some girls may be less emotional than some boys in many cases.

[sujeonggg]

I agree with the result. I believe that boys and girls are born with different characteristics, and so it's typical to show two different reactions toward the same incident. But as you said, I think there are also many exceptions that some boys are more emotional and some girls are less emotional than typical boys and girls. I think the reason why 1-2 years old age kids showed all the same reactions is because they are not yet shaped/caused by surroundings. So I think those exceptions can be found when they grow up more, when their original characteristics are shaped differently in different environments.

[juliekim]

Boys and girls do have different ways of understanding and expressing their sympathy. I think the way that girls do it is more of an emotional approach. Girls like feeling like they're understood, that at least one person cares about what's going on in their lives. I don't know about boys though. From what I saw, they like to just talk about it and shake it off without making such a big deal out of it. That isn't to say that boys can't understand girls and vice versa. But I can see why it'd be difficult for boys and girls to understand each other.

[cathysjun]

I agree that many guys and many girls have different ways of understanding each other because of their environment. However I do agree with you that there are exceptions. I guess we can't make generalizations.

[minjaeyang]

I think there are differences according to gender, but it all depends on how an individual is. The idea that girls are more emotional than boys may be right in general. However, there are girls that are not emotional and there are boys that are really emotional. Therefore, i think general traits exist but individual characteristic also matter.

[ginayang]

I think girls and boys are different because of stereotypes. Girls are supposed to be sensitive, expressive, and understanding while boys are supposed to be closed, cool, and indifferent. Even when they are babies, girls wear pink, play with dolls, and do girly activities like ballet. On the other hand, boys wear blue, play with violent toys such as guns, and do manly activities like baseball. So through society and same gender parents, children have been trained to behave girly or manly. Thus, I do believe that girls and boys have a different way of understanding each other.

[hannahs]

Like the video showed, it's pretty clear that girls and boys are different. I guess girls are more emotional than guys. Even if girls and guys were similar when they were born I think society will shape girls to be more emotional than guys and guys to be more careless about things like that.

[jessicashim2013]

It can depends on the personality, but in general girls and boys are different. Girls try to understand and encourage each other when they have hard times. On the other hand, boys tell eah other what they did wrong and fix their problems. I guess boys talk straight forword but girls try to say things the other way around. The way they talk and expressing feeling are different.

[julielu]

hello

[jessicak016]

After watching this video, I do start believing that girls put more emphasis on sharing feelings and emotions than guys. But as others said, it would be still wrong to make generalization based on this experiment shown in the video. There are many exceptions, especially when they have tested only kids in Korea. In order to make a good conclusion, they should go around and test all kids around the world.

[sageda]

I think this kind of a stuff is (excuse me) but completely bullshit. It's all social conditioning. Female and male psyche isn't inherently different. We grow up believing so. From the moment we are born, we are shoved with expectations of what our genders are supposed to be and naturally we become what society expects from us.

I'm reading this book called Delusions of Gender. It debunks this sort of pseudo science that claims "evolutionary" differences between males and females. It turns out, when you tell someone that they are a certain thing, they are most likely going to act that way. For example, telling men that they are less emotional makes them so. Telling girls that they're less talented in the math or science makes them believe that and affects their performance. It's all about conditioning.

Girls share their feelings more than guys do because guys are told to bottle them up because sharing them is somehow not masculine.